Like everyone else I know, these next two days bring me thoughts of where I've been and where I am heading. While I don't often write New Year's resolutions, I do like to reflect on the past year and make somewhat of an effort to chart a course through next year.
I turned on my radio this morning and heard a song by Kieth and Kristyn Getty (two of my favorite song writers) .
" Jesus draw me ever nearer
as I labor through the storm
You have called me to this passage,
and I'll follow, though I'm worn.
May this journey bring a blessing
May I rise on wings of faith
and at the end of my heart's testing,
with your likeness let me wake."
There's more if you want to look it up, but I was just contemplating if I have been a blessing to anyone else on this journey this past year and how I can be more of a blessing this coming year. It's so easy to get wrapped up in myself and my little world and forget about the big world outside my cozy brick walls. And now that I have written this down, there will be knockings on my door or calls on the phone. I pray God gives me eyes to see the needs around me and the grace to respond as He would have me .
Monday, December 30, 2013
Monday, November 11, 2013
In the autumn of my life.
On a cloudy Monday morning in November, my thoughts turn naturally to autumn.
Autumn means:
- finding the snowsuits
- finishing the canning
- watching my flower beds turn brown
-cutting enough wood to heat the house all winter
and a myriad of other slightly sobering ideas ramble through my mind.
Somehow these lead to all my memories of other falls, long past.
and then I think, wow, life is moving quickly to my own autumn. I have a 29 year old son, I have 9 grandchildren, soon to be 11.
But wait, I am planing to live to be 100. This is just summer for me. I have a six year old child downstairs drawing an eye patch and a pirate map so we can play. In the seasons of my life, I am barely past midsummer. These are the longest days! Begone, grey depression, I have many things to do before fall come for me.
Autumn means:
- finding the snowsuits
- finishing the canning
- watching my flower beds turn brown
-cutting enough wood to heat the house all winter
and a myriad of other slightly sobering ideas ramble through my mind.
Somehow these lead to all my memories of other falls, long past.
and then I think, wow, life is moving quickly to my own autumn. I have a 29 year old son, I have 9 grandchildren, soon to be 11.
But wait, I am planing to live to be 100. This is just summer for me. I have a six year old child downstairs drawing an eye patch and a pirate map so we can play. In the seasons of my life, I am barely past midsummer. These are the longest days! Begone, grey depression, I have many things to do before fall come for me.
Wednesday, October 30, 2013
Great Expectations
Mothers do not retire, they are not allowed to retire,and no matter how weary they may be, motherhood goes on forever.
With that in mind, when two of my married daughters called yesterday within 10 minutes of each other and asked if they could come to my house to "hang out." I graciously invited them over.
I will confess that Esther offered to bring me a large freshly baked brownie but I would have said yes anyway.
While they were here:
A woman came to look at my litter of 5 week -old golden retrievers
I attempted to do some wash
I checked all the business emails
I swept the floor(that's a big accomplishment )
I looked at some Christmas music I may need to learn for a program
We caught up on all the family gossip
Elijah brought us pizza for lunch
the school bus returned bearing 6 more children
and, I got to play with two of my grandchildren
I was feeling slightly weary when my husband returned home wondering if I would like to "make a little saurkraut" that evening. I like homemade kraut as much as anyone in the house but apparently my view of "a little" kraut and his differ.
I now have 1,000 (you read that right) pounds of lovely cabbage sitting under a tarp in my driveway while I wait for inspiration to go buy more salt. I'm pretty sure I don't have enough on hand.
As I recounted these events to my neighbor this morning, she said,"Miriam, you should just be thankful that your life is always new and exciting."
So- thank you honey, for your gift. Next time, could you just think "sparkly"?
With that in mind, when two of my married daughters called yesterday within 10 minutes of each other and asked if they could come to my house to "hang out." I graciously invited them over.
I will confess that Esther offered to bring me a large freshly baked brownie but I would have said yes anyway.
While they were here:
A woman came to look at my litter of 5 week -old golden retrievers
I attempted to do some wash
I checked all the business emails
I swept the floor(that's a big accomplishment )
I looked at some Christmas music I may need to learn for a program
We caught up on all the family gossip
Elijah brought us pizza for lunch
the school bus returned bearing 6 more children
and, I got to play with two of my grandchildren
I was feeling slightly weary when my husband returned home wondering if I would like to "make a little saurkraut" that evening. I like homemade kraut as much as anyone in the house but apparently my view of "a little" kraut and his differ.
I now have 1,000 (you read that right) pounds of lovely cabbage sitting under a tarp in my driveway while I wait for inspiration to go buy more salt. I'm pretty sure I don't have enough on hand.
As I recounted these events to my neighbor this morning, she said,"Miriam, you should just be thankful that your life is always new and exciting."
So- thank you honey, for your gift. Next time, could you just think "sparkly"?
Tuesday, August 27, 2013
Reflections...
Last week was the first day of school. As per my tradition, I took a picture of everyone on the first day and then it hit me- When my oldest was a senior I took a picture of him and his younger brother Jedidiah who was entering kindergarten. Last week I had Jed- now a senior himself and standing next to him was Stephen, my baby going off to kindergarten.
This is the first time in 24 years that I have not had a pre-schooler. What would I do with myself?
Granted, I still have a home-schooled child, a college student and older boys that live here even while graduated but after all these years, what a funny feeling.
I plan to spend my first week reflecting on all the amazing things God has done in the past 24 years and then make a list of where God and I will go in the next 24.
Life is an adventure and as my husband has said many.many times: "It's exciting!"
This is the first time in 24 years that I have not had a pre-schooler. What would I do with myself?
Granted, I still have a home-schooled child, a college student and older boys that live here even while graduated but after all these years, what a funny feeling.
I plan to spend my first week reflecting on all the amazing things God has done in the past 24 years and then make a list of where God and I will go in the next 24.
Life is an adventure and as my husband has said many.many times: "It's exciting!"
Saturday, May 18, 2013
The Most Welcome Interruption
Found this prayer in a book:
" The Music of Loose Ends"
I wish I had written it, but I can surely appreciate the prayer and share it.
"Heavenly Father,
You said 'always.' Always give thanks--always and for everything. You said to keep the music of thanksgiving always playing in myheart. Today I give thanks in Jesus' name for what I usually complain about, for what I can't seem to control or change, for all the daily indignities of raising kids:
--For things that break or get broken all the time, and things that break on first use, and for the broken things that require expensive repair and replacement: Today I see that these are reminders that You are giving my family an eternal treasure in heaven that will never break or fade away(Matt.6:20).
--For things stained, smudged, smeared, fingerprinted, spilled on, even for those unnameable sticknesses in strange places: Today I will bear with such messes with renewed patience because they remind me that it is the inside of us that matters. You have washed our hearts to purest white by the mercies of Your daily love and eternal salvation(Ps. 51:7).
--For things unemptied, unreplaced,unclosed, unreturned, unkempt, unfound, and unfinished:Today these loose ends of our family life reassure me that our family is called to adestiny where only a few things really matter(Luke 10:42).
--For things ufly,plain,common,cheap,chipped,and dented: Today I see these sometimes embarrassing belongings of a family for what they are--proof that a miracle is under way here. And You,Lord of all, choose to dwell here with us(Ps. 144:3).
--For noises day and night, and loud music, and loud noises that passes for music: Today I offer this racket to You as the praise of 'everything that has breath' in this house(Ps.150:6), and thank You with each decibel of devotion.
--For interrupted meals,unfinished conversations with friends,unfinished reading,neglected hobbies and projects, and for the fading memories of many small, grown-up luxuries: Today I remember that in His ministry, Jesus said that children were the most welcome interruption of all and the real business of heaven(Matt.19:14).
O Father, accept my list of ordinary parenting annoyances as the holy music of my thankful heart today, for I sing in Jesus' name.
Amen"
Kopp, David, and Heather Harpham Kopp. Praying the Bible for Your Children. Colorado Springs, CO: WaterBrook, 1998. Print.
Even as I type this, my house is full of such music, so I will leave this post and go attend to my most welcome interruptions.
" The Music of Loose Ends"
I wish I had written it, but I can surely appreciate the prayer and share it.
"Heavenly Father,
You said 'always.' Always give thanks--always and for everything. You said to keep the music of thanksgiving always playing in myheart. Today I give thanks in Jesus' name for what I usually complain about, for what I can't seem to control or change, for all the daily indignities of raising kids:
--For things that break or get broken all the time, and things that break on first use, and for the broken things that require expensive repair and replacement: Today I see that these are reminders that You are giving my family an eternal treasure in heaven that will never break or fade away(Matt.6:20).
--For things stained, smudged, smeared, fingerprinted, spilled on, even for those unnameable sticknesses in strange places: Today I will bear with such messes with renewed patience because they remind me that it is the inside of us that matters. You have washed our hearts to purest white by the mercies of Your daily love and eternal salvation(Ps. 51:7).
--For things unemptied, unreplaced,unclosed, unreturned, unkempt, unfound, and unfinished:Today these loose ends of our family life reassure me that our family is called to adestiny where only a few things really matter(Luke 10:42).
--For things ufly,plain,common,cheap,chipped,and dented: Today I see these sometimes embarrassing belongings of a family for what they are--proof that a miracle is under way here. And You,Lord of all, choose to dwell here with us(Ps. 144:3).
--For noises day and night, and loud music, and loud noises that passes for music: Today I offer this racket to You as the praise of 'everything that has breath' in this house(Ps.150:6), and thank You with each decibel of devotion.
--For interrupted meals,unfinished conversations with friends,unfinished reading,neglected hobbies and projects, and for the fading memories of many small, grown-up luxuries: Today I remember that in His ministry, Jesus said that children were the most welcome interruption of all and the real business of heaven(Matt.19:14).
O Father, accept my list of ordinary parenting annoyances as the holy music of my thankful heart today, for I sing in Jesus' name.
Amen"
Kopp, David, and Heather Harpham Kopp. Praying the Bible for Your Children. Colorado Springs, CO: WaterBrook, 1998. Print.
Even as I type this, my house is full of such music, so I will leave this post and go attend to my most welcome interruptions.
Saturday, May 11, 2013
Perspectives
Life has its twists and turns.
Last week I got to go to Missouri and help our oldest son with his 4 pre-schoolers when his lovely wife Lindsay needed to go to Texas with her family. It was my first opportunity to just "hang -out" with four fun children.
Granted, their energy level was probably double mine and I realized why God gives children to 20 year -olds, not 50 somethings.
On the other hand, I got an up close and personal look at their life and I'm so proud of the wonderful job Seth and Lindsay are doing teaching their children.
When I was in the midst of my own toddler life, I couldn't see the forest for the trees, so to speak. Dishes, laundry, messy faces, dirty behinds, all conspired to rob me of perspective and make me forget the real value of what I was doing.
This time around I could look at the smiling faces and hugs and realize the work will end - eventually but the relationship is forever.
Mother's Day is tomorrow, I have left Grandma life for a time and returned to Motherhood and my 5 year old, but I want to say to all you Moms out there - its a tough job but the reward is oh so worth it.
Hug your messy children and don't sweat the small stuff.
Last week I got to go to Missouri and help our oldest son with his 4 pre-schoolers when his lovely wife Lindsay needed to go to Texas with her family. It was my first opportunity to just "hang -out" with four fun children.
Granted, their energy level was probably double mine and I realized why God gives children to 20 year -olds, not 50 somethings.
On the other hand, I got an up close and personal look at their life and I'm so proud of the wonderful job Seth and Lindsay are doing teaching their children.
When I was in the midst of my own toddler life, I couldn't see the forest for the trees, so to speak. Dishes, laundry, messy faces, dirty behinds, all conspired to rob me of perspective and make me forget the real value of what I was doing.
This time around I could look at the smiling faces and hugs and realize the work will end - eventually but the relationship is forever.
Mother's Day is tomorrow, I have left Grandma life for a time and returned to Motherhood and my 5 year old, but I want to say to all you Moms out there - its a tough job but the reward is oh so worth it.
Hug your messy children and don't sweat the small stuff.
Wednesday, April 10, 2013
Rites of Spring
Nothing says spring more succinctly at the Ilgenfritz house
than the advent of Trout Fishing.
The smell of
budding trees, small woodland flowers and leaf mold, the last tiny clumps of
snow clinging to the undersides of fallen logs or hiding in shadowy patches,
the fresh yellow-green of new growth, the sound of a rushing mountain stream
and the startled yelp of a boy falling into icy water all combine to remind me
of that most cherished event – the first day of trout fishing. Izaak Walton
wrote, “God never did make a more calm, quiet, innocent recreation than
angling.”
Since my husband
and I have been married and children began to appear, the trout fishing ritual
has been refined and polished to an art. We now have ten boys eligible to
participate in this annual festivity. It
is also a rite of passage since attendance is limited to sons who are out of
diapers. Dad doesn’t do diapers.
Therefore, the precocious may get to participate at the age of two, but more
than likely it will be three.
Trout fishing
takes place at an uncle’s cabin in the Laurel Mountains
of Pennsylvania. The first step is to pack the food. Cereal, bologna, eggs, and all sorts of
goodies are all packed up by the three oldest boys. At their ages, food is important and they
make sure there’s plenty of it. Also
packed are long underwear, hats, gloves (it’s April) and a change of clothes
for all the small guys because someone usually falls in the stream.
Next is the task
of procuring bait. Sometimes canned corn
is enough but many of the boys hold to the view summed up by Henry Van Dyke who
said “The reason life sometimes seems dull is because we do not perceive the
importance and excitement of getting bait.”
Fortunately, we live on a farm and April is sufficiently muddy to locate
worms for an army.
Finally, a whole
host of fishing rods, tackle boxes, waders, nets and all the other necessary
paraphernalia we have accumulated over the years are loaded into our van.
The trip itself
is uneventful. It is a two- hour drive
unless the boys are fortunate enough to get Dad to stop at a sporting goods
store for waders or a license or canned corn.
Then a shopping adventure is an added bonus.
When they reach
the cabin, the boys have numerous complaints about the rodent tenants who have
spent the winter between the sheets of unaired beds and left behind their
calling cards. As they grow older, they
have discovered that it is a wise choice to bring your own sleeping bag.
There is an old
fisherman’s saying that, “Nothing grows faster than a fish from the time he
bites until the time he gets away.” This has been proven true at the cabin as
well. Sometime in the afternoon or evening, Great-uncle Dave and several other
men show up. Then there are tales of
years gone by and the inevitable stories of amazing fish escapes, and finally
the restless sleep of those possessing the certain knowledge of this year’s big
catch.
Trout fishing
begins early. Everyone has a hearty breakfast and grabs the specially packed
lunch that Grandma has sent along before heading out to select a hole before
daylight. With a little luck, someone
will catch their limit before lunch, sending everyone else into fervor of casting
and reeling in and unwinding small boy’s lines from trees. In recent years our second son, Benjamin has
become an expert on helping little ones get lines untangled, perhaps
reminiscent of the years he was small.
If no one falls in, lunch is eaten on the bank with the rough bark of
the logs digging into bottoms and the smell of slimy fish on hands.
The essence of
the day is summed up by Noah’s fish tale:
He was about six at the time and as avid an angler as anyone. He had a fine rainbow trout on his line,
which he was quite proud of. Actually his big brother Seth had caught it and
put it on Noah’s hook when he was elsewhere, but Noah was oblivious to
this. He reeled it in and his brothers
duly admired it.
The trout came
home to be viewed by the girls of the family as well and we would have cooked
and eaten it but Noah was sent to take his Saturday night bath and unbeknownst
to anyone else, he took the trout into the tub with him. The poor thing showed no appreciation for
bubble baths.
Finally Noah was
persuaded to plant the fish on the hill under some cucumber plants where it may
have fertilized them quite well, except he kept digging the plants up to check
on the fish
This then is the heart of the
trout fishing tradition- not the big catches, but time with family, making
memories and stories we can pass down to the next generation. I can picture it
now, a room full of little boys and Seth or Benjamin will say, “Have you heard
the story of Uncle Noah and the Rainbow Trout?”
Monday, March 18, 2013
Biological Evangelism
I got a call from a telemarketer a few years ago. She was fund-raising for a pro-life
group. She began her spiel by asking me
if I considered myself pro-life or pro-choice.
I replied, “I’ll let you guess. We have fourteen children and we’re
expecting one in July.”
“Oh my,” she
said, ”You must be pro-life. Fifteen
children!” There was a long pause and
then she said,” I’m not even going to ask you for money.” And hung up.
Just the other
week, I found an old note dated 2006
where I asked God for another blessing, wrote it down and then stuck it in a
book and forgot I wrote it. God didn’t
forget, however and several months later we discovered Stephen on the way. God’s first commandment is “be fruitful and
multiply” (Genesis 1:28). He has never rescinded this that I can find
in the Bible.
Malachi 2: 15
says God desires a godly seed from our marriage union. I am a strong proponent of biological
evangelism. When God talks about blessing families with fruitfulness, he
compares it to things that cannot be numbered, such as the sand on the beach or
the stars in the sky. The blessing over
Rebecca in preparation for her marriage was “Be thou the mother of thousands of
millions” (Gen. 24:60)
I have been challenged to see Motherhood as an
eternal career. When a new baby is conceived, I
have eternity in my womb. I will bring
forth a life that will last forever and ever. What an awesome thought. We need to let
God be sovereign. I have often wondered
why it is more acceptable to die on the mission field serving Christ but if one
was to die in childbirth, giving life to another, it is considered
irresponsible. So what’s the bottom line?
It’s not a matter of deciding how many children we should have or not
have, but having a vision to bring forth a godly seed for God’s glory.
I had a new
thought last week: God has chosen to
build His kingdom through the birth of more people. I don’t mean just Christians, The only way
any one can come into the kingdom
of God requires a
physical birth first, or at least conception.
Satan has been murdering millions of children though abortion, and
Christians protest this but he is just as active in Christian churches and
homes tricking us into believing that we have the right and power to prevent
conception. In doing this Satan is limiting the army of God and we are not even
aware of it. Think about this, if the Christians in the last several
generations hadn’t made the choice to limit their families, how much more
powerful God’s army would be today. The
numbers of babies who were not even conceived because of some of our practices
is probably much greater than the number of babies aborted and yet birth
control is a perfectly acceptable practice in the Church. I wonder if this makes the enemy laugh.
As I get older, I
am becoming more and more convinced that life is a gift and I do not want to be
guilty of despising it. For all the
abundance of scientific technology, only God gives life and only women have
been ordained to bring forth that life.
I am a life-giver. What an awesome thought. No president or king can compare with that
and yet we have been tricked into believing that it is a curse and something
only designed to tie us to our kitchen sinks.
It is an honor to bring a soul into the world that will live
forever and then I have been given the opportunity to help disciple that new
life with the vision of adding another soul to Christ’s kingdom.
Motherhood is a career that extends to eternity. All other things will be left behind. I do
not want to be empty of that which I could have taken into eternity – the
redeemed souls of my children. Mark had a vision once about walking our family
through a wall of fire. Everything we
had attained in life was burned away except our children and that is what we
came to God with. The enemy knows the power of life. Every person that comes
into the world has the potential to glorify God with his life and to help
destroy the works of the enemy. No
wonder Satan is trying to destroy our desire to bear children and why he tries
so hard to make us believe the sacrifice is too great.
When I was 45
years old, I was pretty sure my child bearing years were over. After all, fifteen children were probably
enough for any woman. Imagine my surprise when, on my 46 birthday I woke up to
a strange nauseating feeling. I told
myself I must have a touch of the local stomach bug but when my husband took me
out for supper, I couldn’t eat my favorite foods and began to feel a little
suspicious. After several days, I
finally confirmed my suspicions. Sure
enough we were anticipating another arrival in the fall.
I believe life is
a gift and meant to be celebrated and so even though my head told me that I was
old and hadn’t been pregnant for almost four years, and the baby clothes were
probably all given away, not to mention maternity clothes, my heart said “Life
is a gift from God” and I decided to do my best to embrace this experience
wholeheartedly.
It is easy to
celebrate life in our house. Just let
fifteen children into the secret and a party begins. My oldest son was engaged and soon to be
married. His response was “That’s cool,
mom, you’ll be pregnant at my wedding” (So much for a flattering mother-of the
groom dress)
Emmanuel, who was
almost four, had a slightly different perspective: “Mom, you could have two
babies, a boy for me and a girl for Jerusha to play with.”
Ever since I
passed the two children mark, well-meaning people have been making the comment
“You must love being pregnant.” Somehow
they have confused the fact that being miserable for nine months has turned
mysteriously into an enjoyable experience.
How silly, but the truth is, the reward is worth the misery. How many people who panned for gold and
actually found it said they wished they had never spent those days and nights
shivering in Alaska looking. No, their
reward was worth it.
Whatever you may
believe about women and childbearing, the truth is still the truth. God designed us to have children So,
did this make the next eight months a bed of roses? Absolutely not. My brain hears the whispered thought “baby on
the way” and I instantly gain ten pounds without even eating an extra bite.
Then as this new one grows my legs ache, my back hurts, my husband tells me I’m
sexier while I’m looking in the mirror saying “Yeah right, those watermelon seeds I swallowed have
finally grown” and then there is labor.
Contrary to popular belief, labor does not get easier each time you have
another baby, especially since each time you are also older, but I focus on the
reward at the end.
I have to
continually ask myself: what is the big
picture? Just as God has a plan for each of my children; He has a plan for my
marriage and what it is producing.
I found that plan in the book of Malachi where God says
marriage is for the purpose of producing a godly offspring (Malachi 2:15).
Every now and
then I wonder why I didn’t make it to the mission field or do some other great
thing and then God reminds me that I am doing something great even though I
will never see the end result. I am a
builder. He has entrusted Mark and I
with all these children. How better to
make disciples than with those who someone lives with day after day after
day. This is the best opportunity God
will ever give me to pass on my firm conviction that God has a plan for each of
us I want to be extravagant for Jesus
and leave a legacy of 100’s of people who have the same vision of passing on
the baton of faith so each generation after us (if Christ tarries) will
increase the kingdom of God.
Mark and I have
sixteen children. If God gives them each
ten children, the next generation will have 160 children, but if the vision is
passed along, my great grandchildren could number 1600 and the last generation
I might live to see could number160, 000.
Imagine what an impact 160,000 more people could have in this world if
they were all on fire for Christ. I hope
I live to be 100.
Thursday, March 7, 2013
Falling off the pedestal
As often as I
warn people not to put me on a pedestal, they do anyway. Perhaps just the fact that we have so many
children is grounds for this, so every now and then I must just tell some tales
to prove them wrong.
One year when we
had eight children, I took all the ones who were too small to actually attend
school to see their big brothers in a Christmas play. I was quite particular to dress everyone up
in their best. I had all the girls in cute matching Christmas dresses and had
even made myself a matching maternity dress for I was expecting again. I was also rather proud of the fact that I
had finally potty trained Naomi. She was sitting on my lap in her cute little
frilly underwear that I let her wear and we were all engrossed in the play when
suddenly, my lap was flooded. As my face
turned red, I realized I was trapped.
Mark hadn’t come along so if I got up and left with Naomi, all the other
little children would reveal their true behavior patterns while I was out
changing her and then too, I was soaked and didn’t bring a spare dress along in
my diaper bag. Finally I just sat
stiffly through the rest of the program with Naomi on my lap and didn’t visit
with anyone on our way out the door. I
was hoping someone might think my water had
broken instead of suspecting that
I was soaked with urine but once again I had to just forget my pride and
realize perhaps my potty training methods weren’t fool proof. We all made it home and I may be the only one
who even remembers that night unless there are acquaintances of mine out there
somewhere still wondering why I was so unfriendly one winter evening.
Publicity comes
our way every now and then. One year we
had a call from a local newspaper asking if they could do a story on our
family. At first we turned them down, but on further reflection we decided to
go ahead and let the paper run a story.
They sent a photographer and a very nice young lady out to interview us. She asked everyone questions and spent a good
part of the day with us. The story ran
on the front cover of our local paper on Mother’s Day and the headline
proclaimed in big bold letters “I’m Never Tired and I’m Never Bored”.
I got more
response from that headline that I ever dreamed possible especially since it
was a misquote and I actually said,” I’m never lonely and I’m never bored”
I sent a copy of
the article to my mother without explanation and she called up and accused me
of being in denial. While the reporter
called me up to apologize for the mistake, she never printed a correction and,
now that almost nine years have passed, every now and then I’ll run into
someone who says
“Oh, are you
that lady in the paper who is never tired?”
About two
weeks after that, I was out in the car and got pulled over by a policeman. I was pretty sure I hadn’t been speeding but as he scolded me for having my
car out of inspection, I was envisioning
a new headline Mother of 13 Cited For
Improperly Securing two year old in Car Seat.
That would make me sound like the Mother of the Year. Mark had our van so I had 5 preschoolers in a
car designed for 4 passengers and according to the car seat law; some of them
were illegally buckled in. I wouldn’t
have even gone out, but David and Noah’s first grade class was having a
Mother’s Lunch which all good mothers must attend. So, while doing my duty I was “forced’ to
violate the law. Well, such is life. I suppose most mothers don’t have 5
preschoolers to take with them to a first grade luncheon.
The point is, I’m
as normal as everyone else, I just cook in bigger pots. Our life is full of
teenage drama and sibling rivalry just like the rest of the world. Every morning I get up and ask God for the
grace to make it through the day with my sanity intact and He has been
faithful. I wouldn’t trade one tiny
humbling moment that my children have put me through all unintentionally and I
am looking forward to a few more before the house falls quiet at last.
Sunday, March 3, 2013
good intentions
My good blogging intentions have been falling by the wayside. I stopped this morning to regroup, scrape them up and try again.
After all, writers are supposed to write, right?
So, how have I digressed off the writing path? Let me count the ways...
1. the laundry needs done
2. someone has to balance the checkbook
3. I am the book keeper for Mark's Electric
4. My children need me(some, constantly)
5. the puppies need baths
6. I haven't figured out what's for supper yet
7. sometimes I feel guilty when I take time to write even though no one minds that I do so
This list could go on for quite some time yet. but I am trying to finish the rough draft of my next novel by the end of the year so I remind myself again, writer's need to write and some things can wait.
So, what keeps you from your good intentions?
After all, writers are supposed to write, right?
So, how have I digressed off the writing path? Let me count the ways...
1. the laundry needs done
2. someone has to balance the checkbook
3. I am the book keeper for Mark's Electric
4. My children need me(some, constantly)
5. the puppies need baths
6. I haven't figured out what's for supper yet
7. sometimes I feel guilty when I take time to write even though no one minds that I do so
This list could go on for quite some time yet. but I am trying to finish the rough draft of my next novel by the end of the year so I remind myself again, writer's need to write and some things can wait.
So, what keeps you from your good intentions?
Wednesday, February 27, 2013
WOW!
1 The heavens declare the glory of God;
the skies proclaim the work of his hands.2 Day after day they pour forth speech;
night after night they reveal knowledge.
3 They have no speech, they use no words;
no sound is heard from them.
4 Yet their voice goes out into all the earth,
their words to the ends of the world. PSM 19 1-4NIV
How can I read that and not be amazed that God cares about me. All I have to do is go outside at night and look at the stars and see God's work. Why is it so easy to forget His presence in my life?
Wednesday, February 20, 2013
Some thoughts on entropy
Whenever life
begins going along smoothly, there will be a bump in the road just to remind us
that we are dependent on God, not ourselves and force us to turn again to Him.
There is also the fact that nothing ever stays the
same. It is constantly wearing down or
breaking or descending into chaos.
Last winter I was
pretty sure entropy was overtaking us.
It started with the dishwasher.
We were renovating a house and in the course of working on the kitchen
at the new house, a new dishwasher came my way as well. The old one had been subject to random fits
of leakage so this seemed a good time to replace it. This appeared to be an easy task but when
Mark pulled out the old dishwasher, we discovered that it had been leaking for
quite a while through the floor and into the basement, just not out in front
where we could see it. The floor
underneath was rotten. Obviously this
would be a bigger project than we anticipated at first.
While this
project was still in process, our water in the house began shutting off. We have our own well and I am used to running
quite a few things in my attempts to multitask.
I can have someone in the shower, run two washing machines, the kitchen
sink and the dishwasher all at one time without too much distress for the person in the shower. Suddenly I could only use one item at a time
and it wasn’t going to be the dishwasher.
The only way to deal with this problem was run to the basement, shut off
the washing machines, turn off the pump, wait a few minutes, reset the pressure
switch, run back upstairs and remember to start everything up again.
We were all still
fairly cheerful about these things and then the house got cold and then
colder. It was January and I don’t
tolerate cold very well. Since Mark was going out to get plumbing parts, he
decided he might as well get some furnace parts too. Then, to take the cake, our old furnace down
in the basement sprang an oil leak. Now
my husband can fix anything but everything in one week was a little much. Still, one can either laugh or cry. We decided to have a good laugh and then work
at fixing one thing at a time. The
furnace has been removed, the circulator fixed, the water tank has a new
pressure switch and I have a new list of things that need repaired this winter.
Entropy hits us
in other areas also. For example, I have a dishwasher, a regular sized kitchen
sink and a large 3 bay restaurant size sink and I still cannot keep up with the
demand for clean dishes. Over the years I have become convinced that that at
least in our house, dirty dishes breed in the sink at night. No matter how empty the sink is at night,
there are more dishes there in the morning.
One year I interviewed some of the children to see if anyone knew the
answer. Benjamin was seventeen at the
time, and he offered the first plausible theory.
“I believe dishes
are like Hattifatteners. The multiply
especially fast during thunderstorms.
Outlets by the sink increase this disposition still more”
This didn’t
entirely explain my dish problem, so I asked Naomi. She put forward her theory eagerly. “Dishes are relatives to amoebas and they
divide asexually at night while no one is looking.”
Ephraim and
Jedidiah simply said “Mom, eating food makes more dishes.”
They wondered why
was this was so hard for me to understand.
They also added they sincerely hoped I wasn’t planning to ask them to
help whip the dishes into submission.
The more I think
about housework and dishes, the more I become convinced that it is a simple
mathematical equation. The degree of cleanliness of your house is a directly
proportional ratio of mess created by toddlers and ability and numbers
available to clean. In other words, if
you have mostly older children, your house will be cleaner than if you have a
higher ratio of preschoolers.
On the other
hand, no matter how many preschoolers or almost adult children you have,
entropy is always out there lurking just beyond the door, waiting to force its
way in. My husband is not so romantic
about it. He just says, “ Everything is either being cleaned up or
messed up. There is no in- between”
He is right of
course. There is nothing really lurking and conspiring to trash my house. Life is messy and I have come to grips with
that. I refuse to give up and let it
overtake me but neither shall I let it rule my life. When everything breaks down, it’s time to
gird up my loins and go to work so that when we are done, we’ll have another
memory in our cache of stories to tell when we are old.
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